May 2012
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Anonymous asked: i'm not entirely sure how to phrase this question, but it has to do with your thought processes in dealing with your own ed and general self image. when you're having a rough/triggering day, do you focus more on your own body/weight/flaws/food, or do you focus on others' as well? do you compare yourself to very thin people/very heavy people/anyone?
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Anonymous asked: What made you and your boyfriend decide to have an open relationship? Do you tell one another about others that you date? Are there "rules"? How do you prevent jealousy?
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TMI Tuesday; ask me anything! Recovery? Personal?... →
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Workout Restricted or Yogi: Get the most out of...
Savasana is a pose that is great for meditation. It’s also a way that you can get some of the mental benefits of yoga, even if you’re restricted to no exercise.
Be comfortable: No need to rush into the pose — setting up properly is half the battle of Savasana. Pay attention to where your body needs a little extra love or attention. Let your feet fall to the sides of your mat. Let...
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Happiness Tips From 200 Years Ago
From English Writer, Sydney Smith, to a friend who was having a rough time.:
1st. Live as well as you dare.
2nd. Go into the shower-bath with a small quantity of water at a temperature low enough to give you a slight sensation of cold, 75 or 80 degrees.
3rd. Amusing books.
4th. Short views of human life—not further than dinner or tea.
5th. Be as busy as you can.
6th. See as much as you can of those friends who respect and like you.
7th. And of those acquaintances who amuse you.
8th. Make no secret of low spirits to you friends, but talk of them freely—they are always worse for dignified concealment.
9th. Attend to the effects tea and coffee produce upon you.
10th. Compare your lot with that of other people.
11th. Don’t expect too much from human life—a sorry business at the best.
12th. Avoid poetry, dramatic representations (except comedy), music, serious novels, melancholy, sentimental people, and everything likely to excite feeling or emotion, not ending in active benevolence.
13th. Do good, and endeavour to please everybody of every degree.
14th Be as much as you can in the open air without fatigue.
15th. Make the room where you commonly sit gay and pleasant.
16th. Struggle by little and little against idleness.
17th. Don’t be too severe upon yourself, or underrate yourself, but do yourself justice.
18th. Keep good blazing fires.
19th. Be firm and constant in the exercise of rational religion.
20th. Believe me, dear Lady Georgiana.
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peanutbutterpretzels replied to your photo
is this you?
Yep. Just me being bored in the apartment all day while the boyfriend is at work :)
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Anonymous asked: omfg please tell me what you use to make gifs. O_O
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Why Cultivating A Positive Body Image Matters
Because we cannot love others, help others, or support others if we hate ourselves. Because we cannot achieve to our fullest, realize our dreams, or conquer our fears if we hate ourselves. Because we cannot change who we are, grow stronger, or realize our potential if we hate ourselves. Because we cannot thrive and blossom if we hate ourselves. And hating ourselves includes hating our bodies. Our bodies are integral to our selves.
Because the world is full of messages about “good” and “bad” bodies. Because we are told that a certain weight, a certain set of proportions, a certain body type or shape will unlock happiness, and that we should do everything in our power to achieve those things. Because there are forces and industries that benefit when we hate our bodies. Because we should fight against anything that tells us we must conform or live in misery, that if we don’t conform we should hate ourselves. And hating ourselves includes hating our bodies. Our bodies are integral to our selves.
Because happiness is difficult in so many ways, and becomes even more so if we lunge at it from a place of self-loathing. Because understanding ourselves, loving others, and changing the world can seem utterly impossible if we linger in a place of self-loathing. Because many of the most rewarding experiences in life feel just beyond reach when we hate ourselves. And hating ourselves includes hating our bodies. Our bodies are integral to our selves.
Learning to love your body may seem small or selfish or pointless at times, especially when compared to fighting for larger causes and reaching out to help others. But to fashion yourself into a powerful, effective, whole being, you’ve got to come at life from a place of strength. Your body is your home. If you hate your home – if you flee from it, disrespect it, and wish it were fundamentally different – your strength will be diminished. Whether you want to help others or simply find your way to happiness in your own life, loving yourself is absolutely vital.
And loving yourself includes loving your body. Your body is integral to your self.
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Oh no, Jules has learned how to make gifs. ...
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TW.
I can’t believe I’m even having this argument with myself.
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So, I have three choices:
Eat lunch
Don’t eat lunch and have my partner get upset with me
Don’t eat lunch and lie to my partner, who I am completely honest with about everything.
Clearly, I know what the right thing to do is. But. Ugh?
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Anonymous asked: I should know better, but it's still a problem; my ex (we're the same gender) is losing weight. And every time I see her (we go to a small university), I get jealous. I get competitive. We had a bad relationship and an ugly split. And, as childish as is sounds, I feel the need to be better than her. Even in the food/body arena, even after all the work I put into recovery. Any ideas?...
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Anonymous asked: yeah i just turned 14 earlier this month. maybe i should talk to my therapist? i dont know. i want a thigh gap so badly its literally all i think about. i know i sound crazy. but i always look at pictures of girls and the first thing i look at are their legs to see if they have one. im always trying to figure out how to get one and i dont know, its taken over my life as stupid as it sounds.
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paintingsilentpoetry replied to your post: Anonymous asked you:
good work! Nice reply!
Thank you. I hope I responded to their next ask appropriately. As an educator, I feel like it’s important to give people the information that they ask for, but I hate to in any way encourage the whole thigh gap obsession. I’ve seen a lot of people get hurt by educators who tried to do the best...
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justonemorebeerreplied to yourpost:Anonymous asked you:
the fuck don’t people understand about you being a recovery blog? Seriously, props to you, you’re one hundred times more patient than I would be.
Thanks, lovely. I’m trained as a peer health and sexuality educator, so I can be pretty patient when you catch me in a good mood, haha.
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Anonymous asked: could i do exercises for one? sorry to bother you so much.
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my-journey-to-abs replied to your post: do you have a thigh gap?
oh wow! that’s an amazing photo of you! you actually look so great!
Thanks, hon!
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Anonymous asked you:
i know i can have one because if i stand in my underwear i have small little gap (its VERY small, only i can notice it because i examine my body so closely.) im 5’ 3.5” and xxx lbs. i want to lose xx lbs. do you think i could have a thigh gap then? even when i stand with my feet hip length apart i dont have a gap ): i really want one.
Well, maybe you could have a thigh gap then,...
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mangerbien replied to your post: do you have a thigh gap?
i dont get why people care honestly
Yeah, I don’t really get it either. I never thought much about it until I got a tumblr, which is fairly sad. I hope we can help turn things around on here.
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Anonymous asked: do you have a thigh gap?
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Anonymous asked: Did you ever get sores on your tailbone? I have one right now. I am not sure how I got it - I am not underweight. How do I heal it? It hurts to sit!
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Anyone have any questions tonight? →
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“My parents have told me since I was little, “You’re given your body...”
– Shawn Johnson, Olympic Gymnast
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my-journey-to-abs replied to your post: Why does it take me freaking forever to finish my dinner?
i know how you feel. how about that awkward moment when you’re eating with your boyfriend’s family and everyone else has been done for 10 minutes and your boyfriend keeps going for more salad so you don’t look so pathetic… story of my life
Aw, I’m sorry hon. It’s sweet of him to do that,...
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Why does it take me freaking forever to finish my...
I am getting bored.
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Body Image and Eating Disorders in the Gay Male...
From “The Good Men Project”
Hello. My name is Thomas Fewer. I am a licensed professional counselor in New Orleans, Louisiana. I will be writing an article for the Good Men Project on the prevalence of body image issues and eating disorders among gay men. I will address what appear to be the causes and consequences of these issues and how they get perpetuated. The article will include...
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