I learned this skill in DBT and I made a worksheet to share it with you. Of course, one does not have to fill out a worksheet to weigh the pros and cons of acting on a behavior but it can be helpful to consider the pros and cons of both acting and not acting on an impulse.
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"Part of me knows I need to seek some sort of help but the other part is saying I'm too fat and no one would believe me. My friends definitely don't believe me and that just adds to the discouragement. Any words of wisdom for this situation?" With love, Anonymous.
You can have an eating disorder at any weight! The media may only focus on people who are severely underweight and your disorder may tell you that you’re not sick unless you’re thinner, these are both inaccurate. Knowing that you need to seek help is an amazing first step and you should be very proud of that. Your friends are not experts. Over time, you can provide them with resources about eating disorders so that they can begin to understand your eating disorder. Right now, what they need to know is that you’re in a lot of pain, and that’s what they will care about.
Telling someone about this problem can seem overwhelming or scary, but we tend to imagine the worst possible response and it is almost never as bad as you imagine. Sometimes it can be helpful to tell it like a story. You can even write it out in advance, to organize your thoughts. It can also be good to have a goal, such as “I want to see a psychiatrist immediately” so that your family knows what to do with your disclosure. If you have more questions about how to seek help, please ask.
Here are some resources for how to tell someone about your problem and how to get help.
Please do not delay getting treatment. This is a very serious problem and your health could be in danger.
"Hi, I hope you answer anonymous asks... I'm close friends with a woman who fought a hard and corageous battle against overeating, and is recovering. I love my friend and want to be supportive of her and was wondering if you had any advice on how I could best do that." With love, Anonymous.
Hey hon! I’m more than happy to answer anonymous asks.
It sounds like your friend is very lucky to have someone supportive like you in her life. There are a few things that you can do to support her. The most important one is talking to her and asking her what specific things you can do to support her. Examples might be avoiding having certain over-eating trigger foods wherever you are hanging out, choosing to spend time at places that do not focus on food, like going to a painting studio or something, being available to be a distraction when she is struggling with urges, etc. Every person has different needs, and asking her what specific things you can do to help empowers her to reach out for support and makes it clear what you can do to be supportive. Here are some other resources that may help you out. Some are more geared towards restrictive eating disorders, but also have other good information.
Using Your Spare Time this Summer in a Healthy Way: “Summertime means that there is more spare time, less clothes worn, and weather that makes it easier to go out and exercise. It is so easy to get carried away with disordered eating thoughts and to spiral downward, as I have in the past.”
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Start the year with an empty jar and fill it with notes about good things that happen. On New Years Eve, empty it and see what awesome stuff happened that year.
Recovery Distraction Tool: FreeRice.com
This is a website where you can play games about geography, language, chemistry, SAT prep, Anatomy, and more.
For every answer you get right, they donate to the World Hunger Programme.
It’s a great cause and can provide a healthy distraction when you’re trying to avoid using behaviors.
"i have bulimia, depression, & GAD. i "recovered" 4 yrs ago w/o support (drs didnt care bc i was 14) but i've always struggled & had a full-on relapse in dec 2011 and lately just dont see the point in anything. all i can think abt is my hopeless future. in 3 wks i turn 18 and can start new meds bt that feels like yrs away and idk if theyll even help anyway. i've been trying to list reasons to stay but it's getting so hard and holding on is so tiring :( im sorry to bother you but idk what to do :(" With love, Anonymous.
It sounds like you’re in a lot of pain right now and feeling concerned that this feeling might not go away. There are so many reasons to hold on, but it can be hard to find them when you’re struggling. I want you to know that there are so many options for treatment out there that may not have been available when you were first “treated.” It sounds like you’re very interested in perusing these options as soon as possible. Perhaps you could start taking steps right now to arrange treatment when you turn 18. You could research psychiatrists in your area and set up appointments, look into free support groups, and investigate various therapeutic options like DBT, CBT, biofeedback, and alternative therapies like music, dance, movement, massage acupuncture, etc. This might help you feel like the 3 weeks won’t be just spent waiting; you will be moving forward towards your goals.
If you ever feel unsafe, please don’t hesitate to call or message one of the crisis hotlines. They can be really great to talk to, even if you just need a place to talk.
I’ve personally spoken to people who work for the Samaritans hotline.
You might also want to check out reasonstobealive
Much love and feel free to send another message if you need anything. <3
Monday September 10th